Let's look at 1 Peter 2:21 through 1 Peter 3:6. Peter is speaking directly to Christians in this passage:
2:21 "For even to this were you called -- it is inseparable from your vocation. For
Christ also suffered for you, leaving you [His personal] example, so that you should follow in His footsteps.
22 He was guilty of no sin; neither was deceit (guile) ever found on His lips.
23 When He was
reviled and insulted, He did not revile or offer insult in return; [when] He was abused and suffered, He made no threats [of vengeance]; but He trusted [Himself and everything] to Him Who judges fairly.
24 He personally bore our sins
in His [own] body to the tree [as to an altar and offered Himself on it], that we might die (cease to exist) to sin and live to righteousness. By His wounds you have been healed.
25 For you were going astray like [so many] sheep,
but now you have come back to the Shepherd and Guardian (the Bishop) of your souls.
3:1 In like mannner you married women, be submissive to your own husbands -- subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt
yourselves to them. So that even if any do not obey the Word [of God], they may be won over not by discussion but by the (godly) lives of their wives,
2 When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves,
together with your reverence [for your husband. That is, you are to feel for him all that reverence includes] -- to respect, defer to, revere him; [revere means] to honor, esteem (appreciate, prize), and [in the human sense] adore him; [and adore means]
to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love and enjoy [your husband].
3 Let not yours be the [merely] external adorning with [elaborate] interweaving and knotting of the hair, the wearing of jewelry, or change of clothes;
4 But let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which (is not anxious or wrought up, but) is very precious in the sight
5 For it was thus that the pious women of old who hoped in God were (accustomed) to beautify themselves, and were submissive to their husbands -- adapting themselves to them as secondary and dependent upon them.
6 It was thus that Sarah obeyed Abraham (following his guidance and acknowledging his headship over her by) calling him lord -- master, leader, authority. And you are now her true daughters if you do right and let nothing
terrify you -- not giving way to hysterical fears or letting anxieties unnerve you."
When Peter wrote in 1 Peter 3:1 that wives should submit to their husbands, he was giving instruction that was in accordance with
God's new order in Genesis 3:16 -- that a husband would rule over his wife -- and, because it is in line with God's Word, would result in harmony and a happy and blessed home. Within this framework God, again, the Righteous Judge, will step in
to answer prayer and correct whatever is not working properly.
As Peter stated in the preceding passage, 1 Peter 2:21 - 23, wives are to use Christ as their example. Christ was guilty of no sin, yet "when He was reviled
and insulted, He did not revile or offer insult in return," but instead trusted everything to the Father to judge fairly. God knows a husband may not always be right: in his actions, his judgement, his ethics; his treatment of his wife and children
as well as others; but this way of living with our husbands is what opens the door for God to work on our behalf and answer prayer. Strife and contention, on the other hand, only leads to Satan continuing his work, which results in a vicious cycle of
destruction that continues to spiral downward.
If we as wives can understand that the emotional bind and mutual respect between husband and wife that creates a true, fulfilling closeness was present before the Fall, it gives us a
much clearer picture of what God had in mind for man and woman and their life together here on earth. Armed with this understanding, when we work within God's new structure according to 1 Peter 3:1-6, a harmony ensues that makes marriage complete and
genuinely joyful, with God's intervention whenever necessary.
When a wife decides to act in accordance with this scripture, trusting God to repair problem areas, it's important that she remain steadfast in faith and prayer until
the changes take place. We have a tendency to take things back into our own hands, out of impatience or thinking that God hasn't heard us. In this way, a wife is no better off than any wife before her who has simply adapted herself to adverse conditions
in her marriage, without the benefit of God's help. Resist the temptation to take control back from your faith in God, for His answer will be complete and long-lasting.